Betrayal is an ugly part of life that many of us go through. How do we deal with it? We can learn a few lessons from David and Jesus, who were betrayed by those close to them.
Psalm 041 - Dealing with Betrayal - Aneel Aranha
Blessed are those who have regard for the weak;
the LORD delivers them in times of trouble.
The LORD protects and preserves them—
they are counted among the blessed in the land—
he does not give them over to the desire of their foes.
The LORD sustains them on their sickbed
and restores them from their bed of illness.
I said, “Have mercy on me, LORD;
heal me, for I have sinned against you.”
My enemies say of me in malice,
“When will he die and his name perish? ”
When one of them comes to see me,
he speaks falsely, while his heart gathers slander;
then he goes out and spreads it around.
All my enemies whisper together against me;
they imagine the worst for me, saying,
“A vile disease has afflicted him;
he will never get up from the place where he lies.”
Even my close friend,
someone I trusted,
one who shared my bread,
has turned against me.
But may you have mercy on me, LORD;
raise me up, that I may repay them.
I know that you are pleased with me,
for my enemy does not triumph over me.
Because of my integrity you uphold me
and set me in your presence forever.
Praise be to the LORD, the God of Israel,
from everlasting to everlasting.
Amen and Amen.
In this psalm, David speaks about the faithfulness of God in the midst of betrayal and trouble. He begins by acknowledging that he waited patiently for the Lord to rescue him and that God heard his cry and pulled him out of the pit of destruction. Many years later, Jesus would share a similar experience as he waited patiently for God's plan to be fulfilled, even amid betrayal and suffering.
David goes on to talk about how he had put his trust in others, but they had turned on him and betrayed him. Despite the hurt and pain caused by betrayal, he declares his faith in God's unfailing love and faithfulness. We see this, too, reflected in the story of Jesus' betrayal by Judas, one of his own disciples. We also often face betrayal. How do we deal with it?
We can follow the example of David and Jesus, turning to God in our pain and hurt. We can trust in God's faithfulness and love, even when those around us let us down. We can also learn from Jesus' example of forgiveness, as he prayed for those who had betrayed him even as he hung on the cross. He said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing" (Luke 23:34).
Another way to deal with betrayal is to seek wise counsel and support from trusted friends or counselors. We are often tempted to isolate ourselves in the aftermath of betrayal, but we mustn't, seeking out healthy relationships and support systems instead.
Finally, we can also use our own experience of betrayal to become more compassionate and understanding towards others who have been hurt by betrayal. We can seek to extend grace and forgiveness towards those who have hurt us, even as we seek to protect ourselves from further harm.
As we sing this psalm, let us remind ourselves of God's faithfulness despite the unfaithfulness of others. And by turning to God during our pain and hurt, seeking support from others, and extending grace and forgiveness to those who have hurt us, we can begin to heal from the effects of betrayal and move forward with hope and resilience.
God bless you.